"The kinds of challenges that I experienced in high school along with my peers are now 24/7 issues because of technology, computers, cellphones, and social media," Shane Feldman, an undercover student who graduated from high school in 2012, told Business Insider. "There's no real escape." Teachers have less control than ever. Social media isn't just an after-school phenomenon. The undercover students were shocked to observe that in many classrooms, most students were on their phones for most of the time. "You're not supposed to have your phone out, but honestly, we don't care," one student said.
Beryl New, the principal of Highland Park High School when the show was filmed, said that even though social-media sites were blocked on the school's network, staff members were helpless in stopping students from accessing them on their own devices. And teachers said it was a daily struggle to get students to focus on classwork. Another downside of technological advances is that bullying has turned into a 24/7 activity. Worse yet, it's almost impossible for teachers and school staff members to police cyberbullying, as incidents that start in the classroom can reverberate around the school within moments and continue snowballing at home. "Back in the day, if a child was going to be bullied, it might be one person, one incident that happens on the playground or while you're waiting on the bus," New told Business Insider. "It can be resolved, and it's pretty much the end of it. "Now it can be one person has an issue with one person, and everybody else chimes in, and by the time it gets to the next day, someone wants to fight, someone's not going to school, someone is threatening suicide.
It took something singular — granular even — and it's just ballooned overnight until it becomes a major issue." Girls are constantly pressured to share sexual images of themselves. The undercover students discovered that female students face a unique struggle at school: they are frequently pressured to share risqué images of themselves with other students. "It's something that's normal for them — posting promiscuous pictures of themselves and rating themselves based on what others think and like off social media," Nicolette, a 22-year-old undercover student, told Business Insider. The consequences of such pressure can be devastating for girls, such as if the images leak online and they're shamed by their peers. "The girls that get exposed and stuff, they're, like, the freshman girls," a female Highland Park student said in one episode of the show. "They're, like, really dumb, and they'll just send stuff to just about anyone that asks for it." They are struggling with depression in record numbers. It shouldn't come as a surprise that partly because of the advent of smartphones and social media, depression and suicide rates are skyrocketing among American teenagers. Part of the reason is that social media can seem to quantify a student's popularity and define where they fall on the social totem pole. "It's not just your image at school that you have to uphold, like what kind of shoes you're wearing, what brand are you wearing, what kind of backpack do you have," Nicolette told Business Insider. "Now you have to uphold this image on social media: how many likes do you have, how many hearts do you have, who are you following, how many followers. And it's just doubled the impact of what it was before." Daniel, a youth pastor who posed as an undercover student, said it was easy for students to take personally the responses they get to a social-media post. "Their self-value is attached to social media — it's dependent on how many likes they get on a photo," he told Business Insider. "That can be very troubling for a student, especially if no one likes someone's photo." Teen pregnancy isn't what it used to be. Nicolette, an undercover student who got pregnant in high school, said that at the time it was "very taboo" and she was "ostracized." "A lot of people were telling me: 'Oh, your life is over. You're going to drop out of high school,'" she told Business Insider. "I didn't feel supported at all." Her experience at Highland Park, however, was completely different. "This school had a daycare, a program implemented to help those students — teenagers who were going through pregnancy or had children — so that they could finish their education," she told Business Insider. The school's changing attitudes toward teen pregnancy inspired Nicolette to create a group to lend support to female students who were pregnant or supporting children. And most of all, they just want someone to talk to. Some of the most important connections the undercover students made were with "problem children" — students who were disruptive in class, didn't have the focus or energy to do their work, and were at risk of not graduating. During the semester, the participants tried to get to the root of those students' struggles, whether it was a troubling home life, relationship problems, fears about their future, questions about their sexuality, or personal tragedy. "What I saw going back to high school, more than anything, was an alarming disconnect between teenagers and adults today," Feldman told Business Insider. Most adults don't have any clue what teenagers are going through today." He continued: "They are craving for adults to understand them and see them for who they are and the struggles they are facing. I don't think teachers and parents, respectfully, understand what they are facing." 10 Ways to Help Your Teen Succeed in High School.
Parents can play a vital role in helping teens succeed in school by being informed and lending a little support and guidance. Even though teens are seeking independence, parental involvement is an important ingredient for academic success. Here are 10 ways to keep your teen on track to succeed in high school. Attend Back-to-School Night and Parent-Teacher Conferences. Teens do better in school when parents support their academic efforts. Attending your school's open house or back-to-school night is a great way to get to know your teen's teachers and their expectations. School administrators may discuss school-wide programs and policies, and post-high school options that parents and guardians of juniors and seniors need to know about. Attending parent-teacher conferences is another way to stay informed, although in high school, staff usually set these up only when parental involvement is needed to address issues like behavior problems, falling below grade-level expectations, or alternatively, benefiting from advanced class work. If your teen has special learning or behavioral needs, meetings can be scheduled with teachers and other school staff to consider setting up or revising individualized education plans (IEPs), 504 education plans, or gifted education plans. Keep in mind that parents or guardians can request meetings with teachers, principals, school counselors, or other school staff any time during the school year.
Knowing the physical layout of the school building and grounds can help you connect with your teen when you talk about the school day. It's good to know the location of the main office, school nurse, cafeteria, gym, athletic fields, auditorium, and special classes.